My Fitness

Sunday, February 19, 2017

heres to you

I have a friend whom I love. She is admittedly in need of encouragement. Girl, if you're reading this I hope you find it encouraging.

I saw this on your Facebook wall:

6 Brutal Truths that will make you a Better Person
  1. If you’re not hearing back from someone, its because they have deliberately chosen not to answer you.
  2. Everyone has his or her own best interests at heart. Nobody’s going to stick up for you if you don’t stick up for yourself.
  3. You’re never going to please everyone. You’re going to be criticized no matter what you do, so might as well do what you love.
  4. Your actions define you, not your thoughts. Your character is determined by what you do, not by what you think about.
  5. The world owes you absolutely nothing. You may be the coolest, kindest, smartest, but you’re still not entitled to absolutely nothing [sic].
  6. Nobody is coming to save you from your life. If anyone is going to save your day, it’s going to have to be you.
First, the title. These are not true and these will not make a better person. Instead, consider these verses from our ultimate source of Truth, the Word of God.


If you’re not hearing back from someone, its because they have deliberately chosen not to answer you.
1. Ecclesiastes 3:1 For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.

If you're not hearing back from someone, it is possible they are giving you the cold shoulder. It could also be that they saw the text or voicemail while driving or at the playground with their kids or the doctor's office or a million other distractions. It may feel personal, but you can't judge a person's thoughts and intentions by their non-comments.

We love because He first loved us. I John 4:19 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. I Corinthians 13:7 So believe that others have the best intentions and bear with them. Their life is not centered around you but that doesn't mean they don't want you to be part of it.

Believing things are deliberate will only make you more cynical. My husband always says, "ignorance before malice" meaning whenever we are presented with an offense take the other person's action as done out of ignorance and not malice. This bit of advice has saved my soul by teaching me what "loving others" really means. So, think about things that are true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, and worthy of praise (Philippians 4:8) by taking every thought captive to obey Christ (II Corinthians 10:5). Destroy those opinions raised against the knowledge of God.



Everyone has his or her own best interests at heart. Nobody’s going to stick up for you if you don’t stick up for yourself.
2. Without Christ, everyone only thinks of himself. Within the body of Christ it should not be so. How can you tell who is in the Body of Christ and who isn't? Those without Christ will only think of themselves. Those in Christ will be known by their love (John 13:35). We are to outdo each other by showing honor to each other (Romans 12:10).

If you are all alone in a Christian-less mission field, you still have an advocate (I John 2:1). Life in the Bible Belt of southern USA often feels Christian-less, but you have friends who love God and love you - in that order, the way it should be.


You’re never going to please everyone. You’re going to be criticized no matter what you do, so might as well do what you love.
3. You're never going to please everyone...so you might as well do what pleases God. Those who are in the flesh cannot please God (Romans 8:8). If I were still trying to please man, including myself, I could not be a servant of Christ (Galatians 1:10). Without faith it is impossible to please God (Hebrews 11:6). Not all self-identifying Christians are Christian, but we will remain Christ-like despite their falsehood.
Read these verses!

Your actions define you, not your thoughts. Your character is determined by what you do, not by what you think about.
4. What you think about comes out through your actions. What comes out of a person is what defiles him. From within, from the heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within (Mark 7). So we ask the Father to cleanse our hearts and renew a correct spirit (Psalm 51:10). We are sinful creatures not because of what we do but because of what we are. We are in need of redemption from our sinful nature. Christ's blood purifies us. The Old Testament sacrifices covered the actions of Israel, but the blood of the True Lamb changes us from within. You character is determined by what is on the inside.



The world owes you absolutely nothing. You may be the coolest, kindest, smartest, but you’re still not entitled to absolutely nothing [sic].
5. This is true. The world owes you nothing. But conversely, you owe Christ everything. He has laid down his life for the world and he asks us to do the same. He commands that we do the same. If anyone would follow Christ, he must deny himself and take up his cross every day (Luke 9:23). So while the world owes you nothing, you owe the world everything through obedience in Christ.



Nobody is coming to save you from your life. If anyone is going to save your day, it’s going to have to be you.
6. Christ has already saved you. "If anyone is going to save your day, it's going to be you." is directly countered by the words of Christ in Luke 9: Whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.


So, friend, counter these negative thoughts with meditation on the Word of God. Don't let the enemy in this world discourage you by trying to tell you that you are your own savior. You are not and you cannot be. There is freedom in this knowledge. The Bible is full of ways to combat the enemy. And sometimes as the Body of Christ, we will fail you. Life is hard. Better people have been through worse and I consider myself lucky to only have the hardships that I do. I hope you will too.

Love is patient. So be patient with yourself. 

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